I totally have a crush on one of my boyfriend's friends. It seems that with each boyfriend or girlfriend that I have, I develop a crush on one of their friends. I don't know why. Nothing has ever, nor will ever, happen with any of them. It's just a thing I have, like a pimple.
Definitely have a crush on an internet friend I've known for years. I'm not available, she lives thousands of miles away, and I bet the real thing would be less good than the fantasy. All things considered, it's probably one of those things best kept hypothetical.
But every time I see that cute little avatar... damn!
Iiiiinteresting question, Ben. I wonder what spawned it?
I have lots of real-life crushes on peeps which I think I should have, because they are on awesome peoples. These include my husband (clearly this crush is acted upon), my best friend (also sorta acted upon), uhm, a number of other friends (also acted upon, yay not having weird jealous relationship issues).
I am having a hard time thinking of crushes I feel like I shouldn't have. I am uptight about a lot of stuff, but not crushes, apparently.
Maybe my crush on you- but c'mon, how safe of a crush is that? We live forever away from each other, we're both married, t'aint nothing going to happen there.
You know me, darling. I'm always up for questions regarding social norms/morays/et cetera.
Especially the ones that people are often terrified to talk about, hence the anonymity option.
I wouldn't call myself uptight about many things. Indeed, I'm a firm believer that society needs to understand that SOME of us REALLY ARE capable of having truly Platonic relationships. I've had a number of relationships over the years that have consisted of me and a friend hanging out and just hugging. My friend Susan Kang and I used to do that while watching NORTHERN EXPOSURE and TWIN PEAKS. She made delicious food...
Oh, and my crush on you, darling? Tell Will that I'm sorry, but it's never going away. Even my corpse will have it.
My best friend. I'm so tempted to cheat. We're both tempted. The only thing that stops us is that we know we wouldn't be able to keep each other in the end. But oh dear God, I want to fuck them so badly. The tension is killing us.
What a nightmare situation. At least the two of you are aware of...well, the "wouldn't be able to keep each other," bit is fascinating, but...I think it's interesting that you didn't say "because it would be wrong to cheat."
Spawned a deep and abiding crush on what I would term "arty" girls back in the early-mid 90s. Sadly this fixation and the resulting crushes always ended up poorly for me. I'm happy to be happily married and seemingly immune to crushes at this point (so far as I know).
Maybe it doesn't sound so bad, but I have crushes on people I dream about. Sometimes they have the face of an actor, less often of someone I know, but every couple months or so I have some ridiculously vivid dream where I fall in love with this person, and then I spend weeks or longer writing, fantasizing, and looking around every corner for that person.
It sounds more healthy than being married and crushing on friends or strangers (or god forbid, family), but on a level it's disturbing to know that if one of those people ever walked out of an alley and looked at me, I'd probably hit it without hesitating. Maybe even run away with it. Sometimes I worry that someday, one of them will.
I'll probably have a crush on you until (if) I meet you. I can tell by what of your physiology I have access to that you won't have the kind of pheromones that do it for me, and I'm way pheromone-sensitive.
That's fascinating, perhaps because I rarely dream of people with such specificity. I spent years with no dreams at all, and now they're back full force, but without...dunno, without...I guess "closeness" to anybody in the dream.
As for me, I've learned through internet meetings that I'm rarely what people expect, but almost always for the better. I think.
Hm... I find that I have many different kinds of crushes. Some are just the shiny reflection of how cool a friend is, or someone who just makes some part of me thrill. Yeah yeah, it can be that way, but it could also be someone who instills me with a rare sense of trust/comfort, or makes my brain happy.
But with most all of them, I find that I have to exercise constant control to not touch or compliment too sincerely. Nothing sucks more than totally unnerving someone you like. Or causing awkward entanglements of misunderstanding.
I, too, have a zillion kinds of crushes, and have to be careful with the touching, perhaps because--as I said above--too many people in the world don't really have a concept of love that doesn't involve rutting, yet still involves touching.
That saddens me.
But yeah...I got a lotta crushes. Some way stronger than others, but each one terribly unique.
my best friend. except, she has no interest in me at all, she has her boy. he's an oaf. like, look up oaf in the dictionary, and it's him there. in my personal opinion, i'm better than him, and she knows he's a douche, but she doesn't want to ruin our friendship or what ever. so all i can do is be best friend, and wait for the moments when we watch a movie, and she rests her head on my shoulder as it gets late and the movie seems to drag on. *sighs*
I still have a huge crush on my high school sweetheart. I tend not to think about it because I am dating someone and this person lives far away. Still, on the rare occasion that they're in person, the strength of my feelings surprises me. It flares up and I don't know how I control myself in the slightest from acting as if we're still romantically involved. There is soul vibration involved.
My most major crush right now is on an internet acquaintance. I've read this person's online journal since I was in 8th grade (and I am in my mid-20s now) and every year this person just gets more wonderfuller. I have fantasies that we'll meet and play videogames at the beach.
Well... there's sort of a back burner crush on someone you can probably guess. (But I can't honestly see us together so it just kind of sits at a low simmer in the back of my mind most of the time- I'm always amazed I'm not driving him batshit on rare hang-outs).
I'm beating my crush on Dr. House (NOT Hugh Laurie! HOUSE!) to death with a rock because... let's face it, there's NOTHING about that that's in anyway healthy. I don't mind crushing. There are a few super low level ones, but I'm not in any condition to attempt dating anyone now. Awwwwwww. :D
I had a super baaaaaaaaaad crush on a girl in my sculpture class last year, but I couldn't figure out if she was interested or just Really Korean™. (Heh, I think ALL of my SVA crushes were pretty much ill-advised. XD)