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August 19th, 2007
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You Know You Have One

A crush.

Probably one you shouldn't have.
Probably one you'll never act on.
But it's there.

Itching.

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So...

Tell me about it...



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From:radiumhead
Date:August 20th, 2007 12:57 am (UTC)
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Bea Arthur.
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From:radiumhead
Date:August 20th, 2007 12:59 am (UTC)
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Or any of the other Golden Girls.Those old chicks are hot.

Or Aunt May from the Spider-Man movie, I'd totally stick it in her.

It'd be like, "responsibility, OH YEAH!!! UNNNGGGHH!!"
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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:03 am (UTC)
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Would you want her to call you Uncle Ben?
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:03 am (UTC)
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I totally have a crush on one of my boyfriend's friends. It seems that with each boyfriend or girlfriend that I have, I develop a crush on one of their friends. I don't know why. Nothing has ever, nor will ever, happen with any of them. It's just a thing I have, like a pimple.
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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:15 am (UTC)
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Are these people that you'd normally go after, or is part of you rebelling against being "tied down?"

So to speak.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:06 am (UTC)
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Honestly? I have a modest crush on you. I'm bisexual, but way more picky with guys than girls, for some reason. Counting you, there's now two that I'd really like to just smooch.

Unless you include celebrities. Then it's four. (Hal Sparks and Ty Pennington)
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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:17 am (UTC)
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Yer far too kind. Seriously, you are, mystery person.

I just realized this post could be taken as fishing for that. It's not, I promise.

But who's this other person? Are you in a relationship right now?
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From:ms_tek
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:08 am (UTC)
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Actually no. I don't have a crush at all. I don't like anyone. I don't know if that is sad or great because I mostly just don't care.

There is a long post coming about me and sex/relationships. I was actually talking to my mother about it today. I just have no desire to "be" with anyone.

I want to make money.
I want to DO things.
I want to see the world.
I want to change the world.

Never does "someone else" come into the picture save to assist me or provide me with brief pleasure.

Call me selfish if you like.

That is just how it is.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:11 am (UTC)
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You're not the only one who feels like that.
Why is considered wrong to want to live for only me?
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:17 am (UTC)
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I have an enormous absurd crush on one of my best friends. I'm almost positive the feeling isn't mutual and that makes me very sad.
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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:18 am (UTC)
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Is there something keeping the two of you from finding out?
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From:autodidactic
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:28 am (UTC)
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Steve Buscemi.

From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:37 am (UTC)
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You probably get as much grief about that one as I do for mine.

From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:29 am (UTC)

Not Good

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My Bois Best Friend

He's not as hot as my guy
He's married

Never had the crush until this guy started flirting with me
Would never want to date him - well duh

But he mentioned something to me once asking what mine & my guys views on swinging were...I'm pretty sure he was serious. Tells me I'm gorgeous, etc

I think it's more so me liking having an admirer, and I got a bit of a crush off of it.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:38 am (UTC)

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Would not want to date him even if you weren't with Your Boi?

Swinging questions? Always a bit of a tip-off that he's into you...or your boi, obviously.

And who the hell WOULDN'T enjoy having a don't-touch flirt-crush?
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From:wulfsbane
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:37 am (UTC)
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Crushes? Oh, man. I have a bunch. xD Do I need to list them?
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:39 am (UTC)
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You must give us SOMETHING, youngster.
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From:primavera
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:46 am (UTC)
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You mean my hothot lust for Josh Hartnett?
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:50 am (UTC)
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Sure, that works. :D
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:54 am (UTC)
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I lesbian-ly crush on my internet friends all the time... And most of the time they end up being younger than me, thinner than me, and with about ten times the mental problems that I have.

... So the relationship never goes past "crush" status.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:56 am (UTC)
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Fuck younger, fuck thinner.

But I, too, draw the line at more mental problems than me. Mind, it's hard to find people like that who aren't already in padded rooms, so...

Do you ever vaguely express, through e-flirting, your interest in them?
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From:meggiemarin
Date:August 20th, 2007 01:54 am (UTC)
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Link Larkin... so dreamy!!!

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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:14 am (UTC)
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I'd never heard of this fellow...but I concur on dreaminess.
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From:spasmsproject
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:08 am (UTC)
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I'm constantly crushing on people. Makes life funner.

Crushes include my drum teacher and a co-worker.

I don't act on my crushes, though. Just havin' em is fun enough.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 05:37 am (UTC)
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Crushes are one of the things that make life so delightfully umm...delightful.

Drum teacher? Oh, music crushes, you never lead anywhere happy...
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:19 am (UTC)
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Definitely have a crush on an internet friend I've known for years. I'm not available, she lives thousands of miles away, and I bet the real thing would be less good than the fantasy. All things considered, it's probably one of those things best kept hypothetical.

But every time I see that cute little avatar... damn!
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:58 am (UTC)
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But every time I see that cute little avatar... damn!

What a great way to put it.

Welcome to the future.
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From:fairyarmadillo
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:20 am (UTC)
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Iiiiinteresting question, Ben. I wonder what spawned it?

I have lots of real-life crushes on peeps which I think I should have, because they are on awesome peoples. These include my husband (clearly this crush is acted upon), my best friend (also sorta acted upon), uhm, a number of other friends (also acted upon, yay not having weird jealous relationship issues).

I am having a hard time thinking of crushes I feel like I shouldn't have. I am uptight about a lot of stuff, but not crushes, apparently.

Maybe my crush on you- but c'mon, how safe of a crush is that? We live forever away from each other, we're both married, t'aint nothing going to happen there.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:05 am (UTC)
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You know me, darling. I'm always up for questions regarding social norms/morays/et cetera.

Especially the ones that people are often terrified to talk about, hence the anonymity option.

I wouldn't call myself uptight about many things. Indeed, I'm a firm believer that society needs to understand that SOME of us REALLY ARE capable of having truly Platonic relationships. I've had a number of relationships over the years that have consisted of me and a friend hanging out and just hugging. My friend Susan Kang and I used to do that while watching NORTHERN EXPOSURE and TWIN PEAKS. She made delicious food...

Oh, and my crush on you, darling? Tell Will that I'm sorry, but it's never going away. Even my corpse will have it.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:27 am (UTC)
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My best friend. I'm so tempted to cheat. We're both tempted. The only thing that stops us is that we know we wouldn't be able to keep each other in the end. But oh dear God, I want to fuck them so badly. The tension is killing us.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:00 am (UTC)
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What a nightmare situation. At least the two of you are aware of...well, the "wouldn't be able to keep each other," bit is fascinating, but...I think it's interesting that you didn't say "because it would be wrong to cheat."

Not negative, just curious.
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From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:32 am (UTC)
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That one boy who smells like coffee and cigarettes. It's a little bit primal, the way I feel, and it certainly isn't helped by the fact that he looks like a combination of this:



and this:



I keep thinking that this is one I'll get over, but this crush has stuck around for four years and counting. I love the one I'm with, but man, I just can't shake it.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 02:55 am (UTC)

This video...

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Spawned a deep and abiding crush on what I would term "arty" girls back in the early-mid 90s. Sadly this fixation and the resulting crushes always ended up poorly for me. I'm happy to be happily married and seemingly immune to crushes at this point (so far as I know).
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:05 am (UTC)
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Maybe it doesn't sound so bad, but I have crushes on people I dream about. Sometimes they have the face of an actor, less often of someone I know, but every couple months or so I have some ridiculously vivid dream where I fall in love with this person, and then I spend weeks or longer writing, fantasizing, and looking around every corner for that person.

It sounds more healthy than being married and crushing on friends or strangers (or god forbid, family), but on a level it's disturbing to know that if one of those people ever walked out of an alley and looked at me, I'd probably hit it without hesitating. Maybe even run away with it. Sometimes I worry that someday, one of them will.

I'll probably have a crush on you until (if) I meet you. I can tell by what of your physiology I have access to that you won't have the kind of pheromones that do it for me, and I'm way pheromone-sensitive.

Damn interesting post.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:17 am (UTC)
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That's fascinating, perhaps because I rarely dream of people with such specificity. I spent years with no dreams at all, and now they're back full force, but without...dunno, without...I guess "closeness" to anybody in the dream.

As for me, I've learned through internet meetings that I'm rarely what people expect, but almost always for the better. I think.
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From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:07 am (UTC)
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I think you're totally cute. I'd do you.
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From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:18 am (UTC)
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I'd totally do me t...wait, no I wouldn't.

Oh, hell, yeah I would. Who WOULDN'T want to do themselves, even if just for base curiosity reasons?
From:sarahsam
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:16 am (UTC)
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Hm... I find that I have many different kinds of crushes. Some are just the shiny reflection of how cool a friend is, or someone who just makes some part of me thrill. Yeah yeah, it can be that way, but it could also be someone who instills me with a rare sense of trust/comfort, or makes my brain happy.

But with most all of them, I find that I have to exercise constant control to not touch or compliment too sincerely. Nothing sucks more than totally unnerving someone you like. Or causing awkward entanglements of misunderstanding.

From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:21 am (UTC)
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I, too, have a zillion kinds of crushes, and have to be careful with the touching, perhaps because--as I said above--too many people in the world don't really have a concept of love that doesn't involve rutting, yet still involves touching.

That saddens me.

But yeah...I got a lotta crushes. Some way stronger than others, but each one terribly unique.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:19 am (UTC)
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my best friend.
except, she has no interest in me at all, she has her boy.
he's an oaf.
like, look up oaf in the dictionary, and it's him there.
in my personal opinion, i'm better than him, and she knows he's a douche, but she doesn't want to ruin our friendship or what ever.
so all i can do is be best friend, and wait for the moments when we watch a movie, and she rests her head on my shoulder as it gets late and the movie seems to drag on.
*sighs*
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:22 am (UTC)
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While I've never been in that situation, I've known plenty of people who have been, so you have my sympathy...empathy...whatever, I can never tell those two apart.

Sometimes you don't understand what somebody sees in another person. Sometimes you don't understand why somebody doesn't see how uck the other person is.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:47 am (UTC)
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Friend for years. Roommate for half of them including now. Sitting across the room from me.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 04:05 am (UTC)
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Sometimes it hurts so bad, doesn't it?
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From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:47 am (UTC)
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I still have a huge crush on my high school sweetheart. I tend not to think about it because I am dating someone and this person lives far away. Still, on the rare occasion that they're in person, the strength of my feelings surprises me. It flares up and I don't know how I control myself in the slightest from acting as if we're still romantically involved. There is soul vibration involved.

My most major crush right now is on an internet acquaintance. I've read this person's online journal since I was in 8th grade (and I am in my mid-20s now) and every year this person just gets more wonderfuller. I have fantasies that we'll meet and play videogames at the beach.
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 04:08 am (UTC)
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My high school sweetheart eventually became more like a sister to me than anything, and we drifted apart a few years ago. Sad, really...

Oh, internet.

You do things to our hearts...
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From:ikichi
Date:August 20th, 2007 03:49 am (UTC)

not embarassing enough for anonymity

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Well... there's sort of a back burner crush on someone you can probably guess. (But I can't honestly see us together so it just kind of sits at a low simmer in the back of my mind most of the time- I'm always amazed I'm not driving him batshit on rare hang-outs).

I'm beating my crush on Dr. House (NOT Hugh Laurie! HOUSE!) to death with a rock because... let's face it, there's NOTHING about that that's in anyway healthy. I don't mind crushing. There are a few super low level ones, but I'm not in any condition to attempt dating anyone now. Awwwwwww. :D

I had a super baaaaaaaaaad crush on a girl in my sculpture class last year, but I couldn't figure out if she was interested or just Really Korean™. (Heh, I think ALL of my SVA crushes were pretty much ill-advised. XD)
From:benchilada
Date:August 20th, 2007 05:42 am (UTC)

Re: not embarassing enough for anonymity

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Hmmmm...for some reason I'm blanking on your crush, but I know it...shit...

No dating, only crushing! That's a great motto!

Really Korean(tm)?
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